The older I get, the more listing
appointments I have with people at my same stage of life. Empty nesters.
My sons Niko and Luka are now out of
the house and boy, after just one week, it’s different. Niko has been living close to Ohio State
while in school and last week we dropped Luka off for his freshman year at
Cincinnati. The quiet moments in the
house have already started.
When I sit with my clients who
have called to say, “Paul, its time to size down,” I hear them.
Now, I’m actually feeling what
they are feeling. I know that things
will never be the same.
All the stress, all the noise, all
the sleepless nights and the messy rooms are gone now. Even the complaining to the boys is now
It is a time of reflection.
I want what is best for them, I
want them to grow, I want them to see what is outside our Westerville bubble,
but I’m still selfish and want things the way it used to be. I know it won’t
I do have memories that will
always be cherished, most of which are the relationships with our boys’ friends’
parents. That “community,” as well as the baseball parent “community,” will be
missed the most. At our last baseball games and graduation parties the parents all
talked about keeping in touch, but rarely they are able to. Life gets busy and I know a lot of those relationships
will slip away.
Last week, Linda and I went to the
high school football game, and it already felt different. We were there to
watch some friend’s younger kids, but Linda and I felt like outsiders. As we
age, change gets harder and harder. At
this stage in life we are being forced to change. So again, I get it.
The conversations I have on these
listing appointments are a little tough. At our age, we are logical and no
nonsense. Sellers have a very common scenario, which I also currently happen to
be in. They have this rather large house, say 4 bedrooms and 3000 square feet, and
know they don’t need all that space. Naturally,
we start looking at what is available.
We find a 2 bedroom, 2000 square foot condo or “simplified living” home,
but it costs as much as the selling price of their current large house. That’s the biggest dilemma! How do you
convince a seller to sell their big house and buy a house half the size for the
same price? Remember, it’s all about
lifestyle! I basically have to convince
them to “get over it and move on.” I
have to start with myself! I know I will
have to do it sometime, but I will go out kicking and fighting because I love
where I live and yes, I hate change. It
will be a process, I know. I’ve seen it on my listing appointments. Eventually, when they are ready, they embrace
Embracing the next chapter is
something I will have to do as well. I have to look forward to meeting a new
community of friends, “dating” Linda again, embracing the quiet so I can read,
enjoying my solemn walks with Ringo and trying to focus on being content in my
I know the boys will be back, I
know we will stay in touch with some friends but as I said, I now get what a
lot of you are going through. If you are
not there yet, learn from others and how to prepare for what is coming.
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